I certainly don’t believe I could choose to be straight again. Personally
(I need to emphasise here that I’m only talking about my own journey), choosing to be queer meant choosing to learn what is beautiful and fascinating and desirable about my own sex. My attempts to stop seeing what is beautiful and fascinating and desirable in the opposite sex have always been abortive. So for me
, choosing to be queer means choosing to gain something, and to learn; unlearning something is much more difficult (and, in my opinion, quite pointless too!). As nodesignation
says above, once switched on, it isn’t something I feel I could switch off.
That said, everyone’s experience is different and I dare say that beliefs of the kind queerbychoice
mentions—beliefs about what relationships and/or sex might be like with other people—might polarise one’s desires. I don’t think it’ll happen to me, though.
By the way, I do sometimes jokingly refer to heterosexuality as a bit dull, but it’s usually to do with sour grapes. ;) I guess I do guiltily harbour the idea that bi/pansexuality is a more interesting, inclusive, exciting state to be in than monosexuality, but horses for courses, eh?