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Going straight? [May. 12th, 2009|12:46 am]
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Hey guys, me again--I got great answers for my last question, but now I have another one. Some people say that it isn't possible to choose to go straight again: Why not? What makes that different?

And for fun, a hypothetical situation that goes with my question: Let's say there's a community where homosexuality is the norm. Would it be possible for some people to chose to be heterosexual, then? And if so, would they be able to go back to being gay?

And how many of you think that choosing heterosexuality is a boring choice? If so, is that compared to homosexuality, or just queerness in general?

Just wondering! Thanks so much for your time and patience. =D
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[User Picture]From: ophe1ia_in_red
2009-05-12 08:14 am (UTC)
I certainly don’t believe I could choose to be straight again. Personally (I need to emphasise here that I’m only talking about my own journey), choosing to be queer meant choosing to learn what is beautiful and fascinating and desirable about my own sex. My attempts to stop seeing what is beautiful and fascinating and desirable in the opposite sex have always been abortive. So for me, choosing to be queer means choosing to gain something, and to learn; unlearning something is much more difficult (and, in my opinion, quite pointless too!). As nodesignation says above, once switched on, it isn’t something I feel I could switch off.

That said, everyone’s experience is different and I dare say that beliefs of the kind queerbychoice mentions—beliefs about what relationships and/or sex might be like with other people—might polarise one’s desires. I don’t think it’ll happen to me, though.

By the way, I do sometimes jokingly refer to heterosexuality as a bit dull, but it’s usually to do with sour grapes. ;) I guess I do guiltily harbour the idea that bi/pansexuality is a more interesting, inclusive, exciting state to be in than monosexuality, but horses for courses, eh?
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